Why Married Couples Should Sleep in Separate Beds

at The Ohio State University Institute for Behavioral Medicine Research, researchers acquired blood samples from 43 couples, both before, and after, they had a fight, on two separate occasions. The couples supplied information about topics known to generate spats in their household, as well as their recent sleep history. Researchers instructed each couple to discuss the contentious topic, and to then supply a blood sample. Findings indicated that couples who fought after not getting enough sleep had measurably higher levels of stress-related inflammation. (


Fighting with your spouse can cause you both to lose sleep, but losing sleep can also cause you to fight with your spouse. This chicken-egg conundrum has serious health implications for couples, especially if sleepless nights are more than a rare occurrence. In a new


You may be cozily dreaming, while he’s tossing, turning, and giving you dirty looks. Or, (of course), the reverse might be true. If your marital bed is starting to heave and ho as much as a storm-tossed ship, you may be better off sleeping separately. Don’t freak out! Just read on.


If you’re concerned that not sharing a bed represents doom and gloom for your marriage, don’t panic. Married couples can be too close—here’s what you need to know about the science of a happy marriage. And according to the National Sleep Foundation, nearly one in four married couples sleep in separate beds.


Dean Drobot/ShutterstockIt’s not just marital spats which cause insomnia. If one of you has trouble sleeping for any reason, both of you may experience negative consequences. “Part of the issue in a marriage is that sleep patterns often track together. If one person is restless, or has chronic problems, that can impact the other’s sleep,” says explains Dr. Kiecolt-Glaser. “If these problems persist over time, you can get this nasty reverberation within the couple.”